A friend is asking for advice on how she can come out to her parents that she’s bisexual, and so I’m asking for your advice on what advice I can give her, haha On a serious note, I just want to give her more options if possible.
How To Tell Your Parents You’re Bi?
There’s no single correct way for this. Every person’s coming out story is different. It depends on a lot of factors like your friend’s relationship to their parents, their parents’ view on LGBTQ+ people and their mood, etc.
First, it is good that your friend has you as a support system – she can also reach out to LGBT Foundation if she wants.
Being sure and comfortable with her sexuality will really help a lot so she can be confident in coming out – so she needs to assess and educate herself as much as she can. Maybe even list why she feels the need to even come out (cause some people just don’t, they just consider it an obvious thing that doesn’t need mentioning). Knowing the reason why she wants to officially come out can help with motivation, too – say, she doesn’t want to keep secrets from her parents or something.
While she’s getting comfortable with her sexuality and building up confidence, she can try assessing her parents’ view on LGBTQ+ and test the waters. She can open up a conversation about another person who has come out and assess their reaction. She can also use this conversation to educate her parents about what LGBTQ+ is and what the community means to its members.
And after all these preps, on the day she decides to do it, make sure her parents are calm or in a good mood – sounds trivial, but this can really affect their reaction.
Wishing her all the best 🙂
I just want to add to what the previous comment said. Since it dealt with the before and during, I’d like to say something about the after. No one can know how someone will react to a coming out, so it’s better if your friend will also prepare herself in case her parents react negatively. I’m not trying to scare or discourage her, it’s just a possibility.
And for you, you’re doing great by being there for her – please continue to do so.